Since before the time of Cleopatra women have wanted to be irresistible to men. Even now in the supposed age of female liberation most women still want to be irresistible to men. So, how can a woman be irresistible to men and should she really want to be?

One of the first steps to being irresistible to men is playing to your strengths. A woman should discover where she shines and then put herself in that light. This doesn’t mean always taking the spotlight, quite the opposite. Knowing when not to jump in is as important as knowing when to make your move. If you’re more comfortable in small groups, don’t try to be the life of the party. Make the man come to you and then unleash your sparkle.

Many women these days also seem called upon to be cynical, brittle and hard, one of the boys. Being a good sport and willing to do things men enjoy is certainly fun and men appreciate a woman who isn’t afraid to get dirty but they also like for them to be different as well. Don’t be afraid to be soft and a woman. Men often find the very things they gripe about in women are also the things that make the opposite sex irresistible.

Just as you should enjoy being a woman, enjoy it when a man acts like a man. Even a successful career woman should not feel called upon to deride men. Enjoying the male of the species is one way to make yourself irresistible to him.

Don’t come on too strong, retain a little of the mystery. Make a man work to get to know you. Fawning is unattractive and demeaning. Leave a little to the imagination. A few unanswered questions can be intriguing and will draw a man back for more. Leave before everyone else does. A woman who has a life beyond the party is always more interesting and often irresistible.

In intimate situations be in charge of your own fate. Taking charge isn’t meant to imply that you should be bossy or run the show; rather you should be unwilling to be led into situations. Don’t be intimidated into acting in ways that aren’t suitable to who you are. Be willing to take the first step or to turn away a request. Knowing what you want and not being afraid to let your partner know can be tremendously exciting.

Being fun and flirtatious can make a woman irresistible to men. A touch of the hand, a tilt of the head, a look that tells a man you enjoy him and find him interesting can always turn up the heat. Just as you want him to find your irresistible, he wants to know that you find him to be the most attractive man in the room.

Be yourself. Playing games can be diverting and a great ice breaker but never betray who you truly are to gain a man’s interest. Putting up a false front is no way to begin a relationship. Being irresistible to a man is worthless if the woman to whom the man is attracted isn’t the real you.

Finally, at the top of the list of things that make a woman irresistible to men is a woman who likes herself. If you aren’t comfortable with you, how can a man be comfortable with you? A woman who is self confident and at home in her own skin never fails to be attractive. At the end of the evening a woman shouldn’t be afraid of going home alone. In fact, the woman who may well be the most irresistible to men might justl be the woman who cares least whether or not she is irresistible to men.